Last summer, the concept of female ejaculation became a fascinating topic for me. This curiosity led me to purchase some sex toys specifically designed to stimulate my G-spot. As I experimented with these toys during masturbation, I experienced ejaculation for the first time—a surprising and exhilarating sensation of expelling fluid at the peak of orgasm. Until that moment, I had always associated ejaculation with male sexuality, so it was both unexpected and a bit unnerving. However, I was determined to see if my body would respond to the appropriate stimulation and actually ejaculate when I climaxed.
The term for female ejaculation is “squirting,” which refers to the release of fluid at the point of orgasm. So, what’s involved in squirting? First, you need to understand the Skene's Gland, also known as the Urethral Sponge, Grafenberg Spot, or G-spot. Most of us are familiar with the G-spot—a spongy tissue located along the urethra on the upper wall of the vagina, just under or against the pubic bone. The G-spot can be compared to the prostate gland in men, and the fluid associated with female ejaculation is similar to the base fluid of male semen. Here’s where it gets tricky: the Skene's Gland is a highly variable part of our anatomy, and not all women respond to G-spot stimulation or are capable of squirting.
To achieve G-spot orgasms or female ejaculation, it’s essential to understand how the G-spot and the rest of your sexual organs work. During arousal, the erectile tissue called the corpus spongiosum, or clitoris, swells and stiffens. Although most of the clitoris isn’t visible, it’s actually about three to four inches long. When aroused, this entire tissue becomes engorged with blood and fluid. The Skene's gland also fills with fluid, turning the spongy tissue into a hardened ball about the size of an almond. When we reach orgasm, like in men, the swelling subsides, and we experience the euphoria associated with climax. G-spot orgasms, however, are much different in feeling and intensity, and the methods used to stimulate the G-spot vary. Most importantly, the G-spot and the clitoris are connected. While we see the tip of the clit on the exterior of our vulvae, the clit has two “legs” that wrap the inner walls of the vagina, directly correlating to G-spot stimulation. So, we can’t think of these as two different types of orgasms—just two ways to reach the same destination.
Sex toys designed to stimulate the G-spot are curved based on our anatomy, allowing us to reach the gland, which has pinhole-sized openings that let the fluid escape. Some medical experts believe that the reason women don’t normally experience ejaculation during orgasm is that the fluid travels up the urethra and empties into the bladder. Therefore, achieving squirting does require a conscious effort and will to expel the fluid.
Much is still unknown about the G-spot’s function. Many women have experienced immediate G-spot orgasms during intercourse when their partner’s penis makes contact with the gland, and some gynecologists can induce orgasms by applying pressure to the Skene's gland during an examination. (It might pay to date a gynecologist!) However, giving ourselves G-spot orgasms and experiencing ejaculation can be more challenging. In my experience, arousal levels play a significant role in achieving these orgasms, and it doesn’t happen every time. The more aroused and excited I am, the easier it seems to be.
When using a G-spot vibrator, I’ve found that emptying my bladder before masturbating and focusing pressure on my G-spot sometimes allows me to experience ejaculation. A feeling of pressure builds up, often making you feel like you have to urinate. This feeling will pass, and you need to disconnect from the fear of “wetting” yourself. Placing a towel on the bed helps me get into the right frame of mind. Then, with enough stimulation of the G-spot, clitoris, and vaginal opening, voilà!—a G-spot orgasm and sometimes ejaculation.
You can achieve this with your fingers or with a partner, but a good G-spot toy is the best way to go.
Enjoy the journey!
